Why couldn't they just be like us? Why were we so good at this? We were still best friends, and always wondered about people in unhappy marriages. I was developing a successful career in network engineering as well, and frequently flying out for short stints and conferences and design meetings. It made me glassy eyed to think about how proud I was of her, all the personal growth and progress she'd made since I knew that girl in high school. She had so much determination, ambition, and grit. My wife had worked her way up in an accounting firm, she was managing a department, on track to become a partner in a few years. What followed were the happiest couple of years of my life. I asked her to marry me shortly after that, after five years together, in 2016. You don't need to be married to have kids, of course, but it certainly provides a more stable environment and smooths out a lot of practical, logistical concerns. Eventually, after spending time with kids, and some deep introspection on my own part, I came around on kids, and coming around on kids almost necessitates coming around on marriage.
#Doomrl jupiter hell free
In my mind, when two people love each other, that should be enough, and either party should be free to walk away at any time without any legal burdens or extra hoops to jump through, because I wouldn't want someone to be obligated to stay with me for even one minute.īoth things were really important to her however, and we almost broke up over it. I had never really seriously considered wanting kids, and over time and a bunch of thought, I decided that I didn't really agree with the institution of marriage.
We shared the same interests, the same type of humor, we developed our own language and style of communication.
Eventually, I fell deeply in love with her, and we moved in together a short while later. It started out as a casual relationship that I didn't see going anywhere, but it lasted. My ex confessed that she always had a crush on me, and started actively perusing me. One of the people I worked with happened to be dating a girl who was good friends with my ex wife, and we started all hanging out, and reconnecting. We went to prom together, but mostly lost touch after high school.Īfter college, I came back to my home town, started developing my career in IT, hanging out with friends and coworkers. We had a couple of classes together, and I would tease her a little bit (I was immature when I was young, and totally unable to communicate well with girls). I met my ex wife years ago, in high school originally. I'm a 34 year old part time military officer in the US. This may be a little long and detailed, but I'll try to hit the high points.
I'd like to detail my journey of what is, so far, the most difficult time in my life, what I've been doing to cope, how I'm doing now, and what the future may hold for me. Also, I may be doxxing myself a bit here, which is a little unavoidable if I want to tell this story accurately. I've spoken about my personal journey over the past six months in comments a few times, but I felt the need to make a post about it, mostly as catharsis for myself, but if it helps other people out, that would be cool too. I've spoken about my personal journey over the past six months in comments a few times, but I felt the need to make a post about it, mostly as catharsis for myself, but if it helps other people.
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